Yet when Love Coach Rinatta Paries told me about her blogging experiment with her client, Jodi, I could only think, how brave. Jodi has agreed to open her relationship coaching sessions to the Blogosphere, while she works on finding, and maintaining a relationship with, the man of her dreams.
"Jodi will be getting complimentary coaching from me in exchange for her willingness and openness to share herself on my blog and hers. My biggest reason for coaching her publicly is so that the world, and you, can see what love coaching with me is like and how much love coaching with me can benefit your love life."
I met Rinatta Paries when I worked with writers at ThirdAge to develop the site's blog. She had never blogged before, but she was willing to learn and always looking for ways to enhance her content. Now she hosts her own blog in addition to contributing to ThirdAge.
I appreciate Paries's full-blown honesty about why she agreed to coach Jodi publicly:
"To be honest, I hope that you will find this experiment, and my coaching, so intriguing, appealing and powerful that you will be uncontrollably compelled to hire me as your coach."
But why had Jodi agreed to do this publicly? Because it's free? Maybe. Perhaps she is willing to allow others to learn from her experiences. I can only wonder what the man in this equation will think of all this; will he even find out? Perhaps he's not a blogger. Perhaps he's a dancer, or a sandbagger, and doesn't spend much time on a computer.
In any event, I'm sure single women--and men--will learn from these sessions. Perhaps that's why I like this better than Breaking Bonaduce: There's a shared outcome, something useful to be gained by being made privy to the conversation other than mouth-dropping disbelief that child actors can be so pathetic.
Click here for all the deets. Also note that, in addition to the email coaching, Rinatta's and Jodi's phone sessions will be podcast. BALLSY!
...asks Nick Wilson over at Performancing. Ummm, they're, like, RIGHT HERE Nick! I had a lovely email exchange with him, and Nick mentioned that he would love to see more women contributors on his blog, "A place where those that want to make money from their blogs can learn, and perfect the art of making a living from weblogging."
Nick's over in the UK, but anyone attending the New Communications Forum in March will get the chance to meet him, as he'll be presenting with the likes of a few of usBlogHers. In the meantime, head on over to Performancing. You have to register before contributing.
Certain topics never die. Since bloggers are pretty much by definition wordsmiths you know that language and word choice and the impact of specific words is going to come up again and again.
During my holiday reading I came across a sudden increase in posts examining the power of a single word.
Take word #1: MommyBlogging
Tracey from Sweetney.com has started a conversation that just won't quit about the term. For every woman who finds it belittling or sees derision buried in the use of the term, another woman pipes up to reclaim it and empower it and celebrate it.
If we decide to eschew the word, are we giving credence to whoever those people are who use the term to marginalize? Are we giving jerks too much power?
On the other hand, is it going too far to talk about "reclaiming" the word, as though it were as offensive an epithet as similar "reclaimed" terms used by members of the African American community or gay community, for example? I mean I called my mother "Mommy" until way too old...I have trouble thinking of it as a hurtful term!
And let's not ignore the fact that businesses and advertisers are sitting up and taking notice of the MommyBlogging phenomenon in a big way...sponsoring podcasts and blogs and trying to reach out to the whole crowd. You've certainly got their attention, no doubt about that.
When we sent out the post-BlogHer survey we had a section to self-categorize your blogs. We used the category "Family" to be, I suppose, sensitive to this issue. A not-insignifcant number of you said, "Hey...how could you forget the MommyBloggers?" And you categorized yourself as "Other"!!
So, can't we simply say "to each their own", or is this a line that must be drawn? I'm not a Mommy. I have no answers. I'm just fascinated by the conversation.
Jory is on the East Coast. Lisa is in Montana. Sheesh, am I the only one who knows it gets really really cold in those places at this time of year? But from our far-flung corners of the country we are still busily planning BlogHer '06. I think, however, that we will actually take the next few days off. From our businesses. From BlogHer. Even from each other!
So Happy Holidays to you all.
Get some rest. Get some quality time with whomever you've been missing having that quality time with. And get some presents!
And give too. Give a gift. Give a break. Give a hand. Give a damn!
People have passed a long a few jobs that seem like they would be right up some BlogHer allies, so check 'em out if they speak to you :)
The Word of Mouth Marketing Association (WOMMA) is looking for a full-time blogger/editor. The description says the position is based in Chicago, although I'm not sure if that's hard and fast, given the role. Now, you may recall that some BlogHers have lately given WOMMA some grief over their ratio of male to female speakers at their upcoming conference (me included.) WOMMA's head, Andy Sernovitz, has jumped into the fray on multiple blogs defending their practices and asking for assistance...including sending along this job info to a BlogHer asking her to pass it around amongst other BlogHers. I will give him props for that. So if you want to be the next Christine Halvorson, check out the job listing.
Sunset Magazine is looking for several editors, including a home editor and a travel editor. Sunset is located here in the the Bay Area. I know some of you out there have the "discriminating taste" that Sunset seeks, so go for it!